You Can Have a Nice Life Anytime You Want It
(from Murray Oxman’s How to Beat the Stress and Get More Out of Life ~
Most people like their lives the way they are. And part of it is, they like to feel bad, they like to get angry, they like to get negative, they like to argue, and then they like to blame it on other people.
Christ said, “Physician heal thyself.”
Isn’t it a fact that all of us, throughout our lives, have always given ourselves advice on the next thing to do that’s going to fix our life? And, isn’t it a fact that the next thing always almost does it? But never quite does. So then we have to have the next thing, and then the next thing. And the next thing, and the next thing, on and on and on. Right? But it just never quite fixes it.
Would you go to a doctor for thirty or forty years who never quite helped you? And every time he charged you! Wouldn’t you lose faith in that doctor? Yes, you would. The point is — when are you going to lose faith in you treating you?
“Physician heal thyself” means the one that’s giving you the advice, which you call you, is the problem Where you’re getting your advice is the problem. The one that’s trying to help you is the problem!
There’s something wrong! That’s what I’m trying to say to you. There’s something wrong here. And here’s the beauty of it — when you see what’s wrong as being wrong, you don’t have to do anything. Again — never be afraid to entertain the idea that maybe you’ve gone wrong. Maybe you don’t know what you think you know. Maybe you’re wrong about everything! What’s wrong with that?
Look! I’ll give you a perfect example.
Here I am sitting someplace, and let’s just say I’m enjoying some ice cream. Somebody comes in and says to me, “You’re already too fat. What are you doing eating that ice cream?”
Then, a thought comes to me and says, “Are you going to let him get away with that?”
What was the problem? What the person said? Or the thought? Which was it?
The thought was the problem. When you see that the thought is the problem — is there anything to do? Do you understand?
That’s the problem. That’s it! That’s the problem. I don’t have to listen to that. I don’t have to say anything to that person. I can just go on eating my ice cream. And that’s the end of it!
Inner Life Exercise
Don’t add but subtract! Don’t try to add anything psychological to your life, but instead, get rid of something. The path to a higher world is found by getting rid of something useless that you now value as good and necessary. This ridding process makes room for right thoughts and feelings and opens a door into a higher world. Try it for yourself.