A revealing talk
I listened to a revealing audio talk by Vernon Howard in which he said; “You will now become an expert on any sense of guilt put upon you.” What a beautiful aim that sheds light on that which previous occurres in the dark. When you have an inner aim to detect sly suggestions, big or small, to place you under guilt, you have a new, undiscovered power or tool to keep yourself sane and happy. Collect all the tools you can to bring up your happiness level, this is one of them. Have you ever agreed to do something for someone only later wishing you had not? What if you caught that guilt reaction, which answered; “yes,” and did not obligate yourself?
Our unseen false self-images cause us endless troubles. These self-images provide fertile ground for getting tripped up by guilt comments and requests. No matter how young or old you are, it is time to wise up to this energy stealing thief.
Become your own expert.
This guilt shaming happens inside and outside yourself. Both your mind and other people place guilt upon you more than you could ever imagine. Having the aim of becoming your own expert will reveal this. By working with this bright aim/exercise you will be surprised how often it is used against you and how you use it on others. You will suddenly become aware; “Oh my gosh, that was a guilt comment.” Everyone does it and this unconscious bad habit needs to be brought up to the light. This using guilt to control, is a cunning trick used by others to get you to do things they want you to do.
Most unsuspecting people miss this trick because they have a self-image of being strong, but factually they are really weak. It is only an image. When you decide to become your own expert you will be amazed at the clever ways people will try to use a sense of guilt to get their own way. Why not use your friends as an experiment to test what is being said here. Remain light hearted and keep your own council. Remember this “guilting” is done in disguise, nobody will come right out and say; “I’m now going to use guilt to get my own way.” It’s hidden, but it is there. Guilt is a useless emotion that needs to be understood out of existence. Feeling guilty is feeling bad. It is a drain on your natural energies. You will also discover how suggestible you are. Working on becoming aware of what is now unseen provides endless shocking and life changing facts for you to discover about yourself and the world around you. But only by doing the persistent ‘hard work of observing’ without judging yourself or others reactions, will you see if this post is true.
Moving to a happier place.
Vernon also mentioned that people suffer from not only personal loneliness, but they are “Cosmically Lonely,” they feel apart from the whole Universe. What a terrible condition be in. This explains the whole crazy world we hear about on the news every night. What if you are part of the cosmic whole and just don’t realize it? Guilt and loneliness are brothers and studying guilt will reveal this. Guilt is a brick, a weight that should be tossed out. Decide that guilt has no place in a happy persons’ life. Decide to be happy yourself. Summiting to guilt is death itself. Decide to keep a close eye on all guilt suggestions. I personally invite you to explore all of the above, what do you have to lose, but feeling bad about your guilt?