Sometimes what we really fear is feeling afraid. In this short passage, Vernon Howard explains that there is nothing to fear in fear itself.
Isn’t it marvelous to be in a place where you can be just as scared as you actually are? All those hidden suppressed tremors, shakings, looking around at the world with frightened eyes, all that does not have to be concealed here.
Where you live outside of this room it is demanded of you that you pretend that your shaking is not there and you’re given exact scripts and stage directions for faking it throughout the whole day …and too bad, when we were younger and didn’t know any better, we took the script and learned it perfectly.
All that will stop, and you can stop it right now. Let me give you a new definition of one form of naturalness. Isn’t naturalness desirable? Artificiality is undesirable isn’t it?
One definition of naturalness is to be as scared as you are without concealment, without fighting it, without pretending, without denying it.”
from a talk given 1/17/1986
“It is your recognition of the hurtful voices that breaks their grip and drives them away.
…At bedtime, recognize the chattering voices that try to rob you of restful sleep.”
-Vernon Howard Freedom from Harmful Voices